Interview w/Lydia Brew author of Ungolden Silence
PW: Who is Lydia E. Brew?
LB: I was born with cerebral palsy but never allowed my physical limitations to stand in my way. I hope that some of my writing also provides insights into the world of the physically challenged. I graduated from Texas Southern University where I received The Society of Professional Journalist Sigma Chi Citation for Achievement. I joined drama club and pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. Under the leadership of one of my journalism professors, I penned my first book Edith, The Story of Edith Irby Jones, M.D. about the first African-American to graduate from The Arkansas School of Medicine. Upon finishing college, I worked with the Houston Association of Black Journalists. I am a Christian and attend St. Steven’s United Methodist Church.
PW: What is your definition of Domestic Violence?
LB: It is emotional, physical and sexual abuse in a family. This includes children within family. Now when it comes to children, this is a bit tricky, because some parents believe in spanking and that is an issue. That’s not what I am talking about. As it relates to Ungolden Silence, Domestic Violence is emotional, physical and sexual abuse in a family.
PW: You recently released a book called Ungolden Silence. Tell us about it?
LB: Ungolden Silence is about changing the way that society thinks about sexual abuse. We should focus on protecting the name of sexual victims. In my opinion, we need to focus on the abuser and putting him or her away. Society hears the words “sexual abuse” they sometimes start blaming the abuser and ask what was victim was doing or wearing. We do not do this for any other crimes.
Example: When a person is murdered, the name of the victim is given when the family is notified. But when a person is sexually assaulted then it is said that the person needs privacy because he or she had been violated. Hello, taking someone’s life is the ultimate violation. Society needs to understand that abuse of any kind is wrong. Ungolden Silence is an attempt to make readers think about their perceptions of abuse.
PW: What was the inspiration behind this writing?
LB: In the 1990’s I kept noticing that during the news when a crime was reported the name of the victim was given. The news always waited until the next of kin were notified before the name was released to the public. However, when it came to sexual crimes, the names of the victims were not given. The policy of most news organizations was not to give the names of the victims to protect their privacy.
Elizabeth Smart was kidnapped from her home. Nine months later she found and appeared on Oprah. Oprah talked about everything. However, when it came to the fact that Elizabeth was violated Oprah said that it was private and went on with the show. Another story that comes to mind is of three girls who were kidnapped and found at first their names were given, however, it was discovered they were violated their name were not given anymore
PW: Were there any ah-ha moments for you while writing the manuscript?
LB: Yes there are too many to talk about.
PW: What are the three takeaways you wish for the reader to come away with?
LB: It is my hope that while the reader will not only be entertained, they will begin to understand many things about the victim as well as the rapist or batter. Why does anyone stay with his abuser? Why does an abuser say that it will never happen again but always does? The answer is never simple.
PW: What are your thoughts concerning the recent incident of NFL player Ray Rice?
LB: Recently the NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell hired four women to help shape the NFL Domestic Violence Policy; however, all these women were white when over 70% of the NFL players are black males? What are your thoughts concerning this? Society as a whole needs to understand that domestic violence is wrong. This has nothing to do with race or wealth or anything like that. No one should accept domestic violence.
PW: Is there a disproportionate amount of abuse among the “minority” community as oppose to the white community?
LB: It does not matter we are all human beings. NO woman should have to accept this. The African American community often try to say men have to deal with racism, but this is never a good reason for abuse.
PW: What’s next with Lydia E. Brew?
LB: I am still daydreaming. I am working on a drama, which takes over generations and deals with societal issues that I wants to address through my storytelling.
How can people connect with you?
PW: Any parting words for our readers?
LB: Silence is golden when it enables a person to read for pleasure.
PW: Lydia it was a pleasure to speak with and thank you for stopping by the Operating Room of PWICU to chat with us. We wish you nothing but continued success.
About the Book
Beatrice James and Elaine Wilson work for a marketing firm in Houston, Texas. Life hasn’t been easy for Elaine as she copes with her disability, and at the same time manages to function in her everyday life. The two coworkers and friends jump at the opportunity to help run a Disabled Awareness Campaign when Mrs. Stevens, from Washington D.C., calls the ladies up and pitches the idea. Elaine agrees to chair the campaign and Beatrice agree to be second chair. Both women agree to meet with Mrs. Stevens in Washington to get the campaign set-up and running. All goes well until Thomas Paige enter the scene.
Mrs. Stevens herself is excited to meet, for the first time, the dapper and charming Thomas Paige, who is a well-known community leader. It doesn’t take long for the charm to evaporate and Thomas began to shed his wool, revealing the wolf underneath the sheep’s clothing. Elaine begins to sense that there’s something more to Thomas than what he’s presenting, but will it be too late when she finds out for certain?
Ungolden Silence will have you peeling off what’s underneath a man’s exterior, before peeling back the sheets.
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